The best Father’s Day Video
The best Father’s Day Video
From the Wall Street Journal via HotAir
As an estimated 70.1 million fathers prepare to celebrate Father’s Day in the U.S., recent research shows that their distinct style of parenting is particularly worth recognition: The way dads tend to interact has long-term benefits for kids, independent of those linked to good mothering.
Beyond rough-and-tumble play, men tend to challenge crying or whining children to use words to express themselves. Men are more likely to startle their offspring, making faces or sneaking up on them to play. Even the way parents hold babies tends to differ, with men cradling infants under their arm in a “football hold” and moms using the “Madonna position” seen in Renaissance artwork—tucked under their chins face-to-face, says Kyle Pruett, co-author of “Partnership Parenting” and a clinical professor of child psychiatry at the Yale School of Medicine. …
The benefits of involved fathering are known: improved cognitive skills, fewer behavioral problems among school-age children, less delinquency among teenage boys and fewer psychological problems in young women, based on an analysis of 16 long-term studies of father involvement, published in 2008 in the scholarly journal Acta Paediatrica.
The website FamilyFacts.org fleshes these ideas out still further:
- Among adolescent boys, those who receive more parenting from their fathers are less likely to exhibit anti-social and delinquent behaviors.
- Among adolescent girls, those who have a strong relationship with their fathers are less likely to report experiencing depression.
- Adolescent males who report a close relationship with their fathers are more likely to anticipate having a stable marriage in the future.
- Adolescent girls who have a close relationship with their fathers are more likely to delay sexual activity.
Here’s our video on how to choose a Guardian to raise your young kids. This is the most important decision you can make in your estate plan when you have young kids. I know it’s hard, but you have to make it and document it in your will. The consequences of not naming a Guardian are tragic. Don’t put this off – protect your kids by naming your guardians as part of your estate planning.
Here’s our video on the current estate and gif tax rules.
Time magazine online in its Feb. 26 edition has a funny article by Joel Stein about his experience with an estate planning attorney. Embedded in the article is a link to an older article by Sally Stich which has this great final paragraph about the responsibility of parents to do estate planning.
That is the crux of the problem. Parents don’t want to think about their death either, and nobody wants to talk about it. But, say experts, parents need to be parents one last time. “It’s selfish not to take care of these end-of-life issues,” says Dennis Belcher, chairman of the Real Property, Probate and Trust Law section of the American Bar Association, “and selfish not to communicate with your kids about them.” More important, it’s the final statement you make as a parent. Done openly, it will ensure the greatest legacy of all: family members who remain friends after you’re gone.
This conjures up one of my maxims that not doing estate planning (like not having life insurance when your children are young) is parental malpractice. And, unlike Joel Stein’s experience in the article linked above, estate planning doesn’t have to be complicated and expensive. If you are a California resident and have a small to moderate size estate, our online Will Package or Living Trust Package can help you establish a comprehensive living trust estate plan in just a few weeks for a very affordable price with one of our attorneys to guide you and follow-up with you. Check it out, get it done, and cross it off the list of things you need to do as a parent.